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Expert tips for online dating in the New Year

Posted on: December 18, 2009

January is one of the busiest times of the year on Internet dating sites. Since online dating has lost its stigma in a world where singles lead frenetic lifestyles and have little time to find love, traffic on these sites will continue to increase, according to Rochelle Peachey, who has written two books about dating and in February 2010 is launching I Love Your Accent, an international online dating web site for singles in the United States and the United Kingdom.
 
“Online dating is now accepted as a respectable way to find love, especially with people who have busy careers and/or are not interested in the bar scene,” Peachey said. “January is a time to set the stage for something new and better. It’s worth taking a chance. You’ll have regrets if you’re left to wonder ‘Shoulda, Woulda, Coulda and I wish I had.’”
 
For the multitude of singles seeking love online in the new year, Peachey offers these suggestions:
 
Post a Photo. Pictures are extremely important. If you don’t post one, people will think you have something to hide or you are hideous. Some individuals claim they are not including a photo because they are a famous personality or they are in the public eye, and they prefer to be discreet. That is a poor excuse. And be sure to post nice pictures. Don’t just include an image that showcases your amazing breasts, but be sure to show your face, too. Also, don’t post a picture of your willy or your family jewels. Well, at least not until she or he asks.
 
Be Honest. Present yourself accurately. Don’t post a five-year-old photo when you had a thicker head of hair and weighed 20 pounds lighter. It will be a waste of time for everyone involved. Consider the Golden Rule. Would you like someone in which you are interested on an online dating site to mislead you about his or her looks and features?
 
Be Creative. Devote plenty of time to composing your profile, and write engaging and original descriptions. Present yourself in a positive light. Nobody likes a potential love interest who is bitter, negative and/or conceited. And remember, use tact. When writing your preferences, say you are searching for someone who is slim; don’t write “don’t be a fat pig.” If you want someone tall, it’s preferable not to say ‘no short asses welcome.’ An English person’s sense of humor (and spelling) is different. That’s something to remember, too, especially on ILoveYourAccent.com.
 
Be Clever. In your profile, it’s best not to describe yourself as “caring” as we all care about something! Don’t say, “I love movies and music.” Instead, write examples of specific movies and songs you like. It’s alright to say you like walking in the rain, especially if you’re looking to meet someone from the UK . You’ll be inundated with replies (it rains a lot over there).
 
Hook Them From the Beginning. Try to come up with a clever header, rather than Hello, or Looking 4U, Are you the one, just curious, etc. These are all boring and overused. Try to spice it up a little and make it more amusing and memorable. For example, how about “New Kid on the Block Needs Tour Guide” or “If You’re Irish, Can I Come into the Parlor? (an old Irish song).
 
Be spontaneous.
Many single people would not think twice about hopping on a plane for a five-hour flight from Florida to California to meet someone special. It’s only two hours more to fly from New York City to London . If you feel a connection with someone, show some spontaneity. Don’t be shy about taking a chance. It creates excitement. Don’t forget you will need a passport ! That accent may get you going so you will need up-to-date
travel documents.
 
Safety first. It might sound obvious, but tell a friend or family member where you are going when you finally decide to meet someone in person from an online dating site. Don’t offer personal details until you’re ready. Don’t send money to anyone. If you’re ready to meet and you want that person to travel to you, buy them a ticket.
 
Be confident in who you are. Don’t pretend to be someone you’re not. Don’t say you are an attorney with three homes around the world if you live in a small apartment. Don’t say you are a great conversationalist if you are quiet. Focus on your strengths. If he or she is not interested, then move on to the next profile.
 
Don’t take it personally if someone is not interested in you. You’ve heard of the saying, “Different strokes for different folks.” It’s really OK to state your preferences. Don’t be mad at the guy who wants to meet a slim woman. That is his preference and he’s allowed his choices. When a female says she likes tall men or men with hair, that’s her choice. Yeah. she may be 4-foot-11 and wearing a wig, but if her choice is a 6-foot guy with flowing hair like Fabio, hey, that’s what floats her boat. There is someone for everyone, so be patient.
 
Think outside of the box. If you live in Daytona Beach , for example, and you are only willing to meet someone who lives in Daytona Beach , then you are drastically limiting your options. Instead of limiting yourself to people in your area, why not be adventurous and consider meeting someone from another country?
 
Actually be single. “This might sound obvious, but in my two books, many of the men who responded to my ad were married. Even if I was interested in meeting someone from those ads, I would have never considered someone who is married.”

Have reasonable expectations. Some women only consider wealthy men and some men only consider younger women. Ask yourself what it is you have to offer the other person and if that person will truly be interested.
 
Don’t assume. Not all English folk speak in Cockney rhyming slang, up the apples and pears (stairs) plates of meat (feet) and jolly good and tally ho. Nobody in England speaks like that except the AT&T operators who think they are being clever or funny as you place your collect call. Speaking of telephone operators, if you are English, don’t ask the operator if you are through, she will be thinking……..I don’t know, are you? You should say, am I connected, through means done, finished! Don’t ask English people if they know the Queen or someone called John that their dad met once. On the other hand, it’s best not to ask an American to knock you up in the morning.
 
“The important thing to remember is not stay positive and don’t give up just because a month or two passes and you still haven’t found a potential love interest,” Peachey said. “All good things are worth the effort. Online dating is no different.”

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